What international students taught me about being Canadian

Pride and belonging… O Canadaimagemeet…geet…deep…Zheng…Zhang… Du…I knew I was in trouble when I looked at the class list.  I was familiar with Singh…I’d met a Tran, knew a Ma…but the list of almost 100 international names — more precisely, the pronunciation of those names- uncovered a formidable human terror:  the fear of embarrassment.

I apologized to the class as I warned them I’d do my best, yet feared I would horribly mispronounce their names. I asked for their patience and assistance.  “Help me,” I pleaded.  “Help me learn to say your names properly.”  Then, I wrote my own name, my full name on the black board. (Oh, ancient school days!)

Lorraine.  Nadine.  Maria.  De Lisle.

Lorraine was my mother’s name and she gave it to me.  I don’t use that name, and if you call me that, I’ll think you’re asking for my late mother.

Nadine.  The name I use.

Maria.  As in Mary, mother of Jesus.  In my French Roman Catholic parents’ day, all girls were named after Mary. The boys, Joseph.

De Lisle or Delisle…from a great quantities of variations…meaning, of the islands.

Say it for us.

Lor- raine. Na deen.  Ma ree a.  De Le isle – well in English phonetics, at least.

I practiced each of their names…roll the r… say every letter.  So many variations…Singh – “King”…for males…Kaur, prounounced “core” “Princess” for the females. Harpreet can be male or female- Singh or Kaur – often added as a middle name- provides that info. My son tells me I try to pronounce these international names with a French accent.  I admit I am struggling with the sounds and spelling.  My students, who seem to be comfortable with a Canadian accent, tell me they can’t understand Chris Anderson, curator of TED who speaks with a soft British accent.  Ah, the evolution of our language and our language sounds:  Chris Anderson was born in Pakistan, and spent his early years in India and  Pakistan before attending boarding school in Bath and graduating in Oxford.

We all have a lot to learn from one another . That’s part of what Canada is.

From a group of Punjabi women, I learn “Kida”- how are you…vadiya- good….thanwad-thank you.  And, I learn much more from the Hindu, Sikh, Brazilian, Colombian, Mexican, Chinese, Japanese and  Vietnamese students who have come to Canada in search of something better for themselves and their families.

We talk about the experience of coming to Canada.  I listen to their stories:  I thought I was going to die (arriving in Winnipeg in January 2017 when we were at -30 with the most snow fall in decades) plans for a new life, capsizing in Lake Winnipeg.  I talk about the expanse of Canada; the diversity in Winnipeg and ask my son to come and talk about places to go; things to see – from a younger person’s perspective.  I remember what I love about Canada; what I love about being Canadian;  what I love about being at the centre- the very centre- of North America.

On a  late June night, I am driving home from the university.  It’s almost July 1, and I’ve decked out my red (orange burst, actually) Honda SI with Canadian flags.  I’ve been given the thumbs up from a few strangers.  I like it.

As the car and I idle at a red light, I see a young East Indian man in a turban walking across the big clover leaf intersection in front of me. He is carrying a basketball.  “Made in Canada” I think, and I remember that two of my international students have a particular fondness for the sport.  I look again, and I smile at him. He looks back, crosses in front of me, smiles back and calls:  “Happy Canada Day!”  I give my biggest return smile and a thumbs up.  When the light changes, I give my best Vtec acceleration. The flags whip in the wind. O Canada.


A cottage at mer mediterranee? Pourqui pas?

A cottage at mer mediterranee? Pourqui pas?

A Mediterranean blue morning here on the Cote d’ Azure with the iconic stucco, terra cotta and sand from any picture post card you have ever seen.

Cafe creme and a tarte pomme: never sweet- simply perfect- to begin the day. Et peut- etre, a plus tarde une autre. Sigh.

Many of us Canadians rent a spot on the water for the summer, and some fewer it seems than before, have a family cottage on a lake: a big lake like one of the Great Lakes if lucky- or a river to go to in the warmer months. (And, sometimes even the winter.) I rent a beautiful studio on Lake Winnipeg, meters from the water. It’s my haven; my “special place”. lol

These days, however, I am pondering the idea of a spot south…here in France. In a village…le mer pres . The price of the rent would be similar if not less than a Canadian cottage- unless it were Cannes at Film Festival time when the prices triple and quadruple and the locals and tourists are encore et encore disappointed that the e’toiles are sequestered behind security and not allowed out. The preparations are frantic as each shop prepares for the spotlight and the Festival sites are refreshed and made ready.

It’s not the Festival I crave although it could be fun. Not the gawking at the stars part but the film part. I was at the Toronto fest many years ago and go the Gimli Fest each year. No, it’s not the festival side that would draw me, but the sea itself. It’s a thought. A cottage by the sea. Perhaps a high rise with a balcon…and a private beach that I did not have to pay 18 euros for each day. Peut-etre. Peut-etre.

Mere de son fils a Paris. Le blog

Mere de son fils a Paris. Le blog

Neighbourhood jardin a Paris et pourquois pas?

Pourquois pas ? I ask myself sitting,eating,cooking and sleeping in my Paris flat which is one half the size of my living room in Canada. Why not?
Other than the pure spectac that is Paris, this is a humble place and such stark contrast to my North American abode where I have rooms I don’t enter for weeks and a yard that could fit a multi-family tower with six suites.
Yet this flat- centred in centuries of history and grounded by tradition – needs no excuses. It is Paris after all. And all that can be discovered about the human condition can be discovered here along with all the unanswerable questions. Would someone pass a Sartre svp. Et merci.

Spring! Not quite sprung, but hopefully on the way…

Spring!  Not quite sprung, but hopefully on the way...

You may have “sprung” forward last Sunday morning. I most certainly did not. But this week, with a few golden sunshiny days of plus temperatures, and a calendar that officially notes the start of Spring next Thursday – the Spring Equinox- I’m feeling a little more hopeful, a little more renewed. And Lord knows (pun intended) Spring is all about hope and renewal.

The funny thing about hope is that it’s most imperative when things are looking bleak: say when the cold harshness of winter seems to be never ending. Today, as I (and many others) dug out from another winter plowing, and yesterday’s warm sun and mild temperatures were already a memory, I realized that Spring will come. And if it doesn’t, I will go to Spring. April in Paris anyone? Salut!